Fuck me I accidentally deleted this trying to work and write at the same time dammit I’m not writing it again. Day 3 was A Book I Love and I said Simon Says By Elaine Marie Alphin, you should all read it, it’ll change you. Thanks, enjoy.
I’ve been computerless for a while (long weekend from my work and my boyfriend broke his laptop so he has been borrowing mine) so I didn’t get to post part two as quickly as I would’ve liked to. However, I still want to finish this challenge in my own time, so I’m just going to keep calm and carry on!
Day 2: Something you feel strongly about.
During the days I’ve had off from updating, I’ve been thinking about this one. Something I feel strongly about? How vague is that?! I feel strongly about lots of different things, in a wide variety of disciplines. I’ve decided to just pick one random subject that I have an opinion on and speak of that. And, since this is an issue in my day to day life, I’m picking BEING RELIABLE.
Being reliable incorporates lots of smaller character traits that I value. Being trustworthy, dependable responsible, punctual and taking ownership are all components in being reliable and they are all crucial to being a well-rounded person. I like to think I manage to maintain all those traits for a good percentage of the time, and I try to avoid people who don’t, because not being able to maintain these good habits is probably a pretty serious sign that you are lacking in other aspects of your personality as well.
If you call in sick all needlessly just because, cancel plans last minute, show up more than a few minutes late with no excuse, blame others for your mistakes, the list goes on, you are letting people down. People who are depending on you. It is not difficult to avoid situations like this, so the fact that people don’t bother is proof that they don’t care about how their actions affect those around them. Unreliable people are, as such, selfish people.
I was taught to take responsibility for my own actions, that being late is disrespectful to the person you’re meeting or the job you’re supposed to be at. I believe that when you make a promise, you keep it. I was taught that if you need to be somewhere at a particular time, you build in extra time for unforeseen circumstances. If something happens that is going to cause you to be unavoidably late, you call. You apologize. You reschedule at their convenience.
Follow through. Be responsible. Be Reliable.
I found this writing challenge on pinterest and I thought it would be a great way to get back into writing which has always been a passion of mine. I wish I’d found it in November so I could’ve started at the very beginning of the month, but this will have to do!
Day 1: Five Ways To Win My Heart
If you’re reading this, don’t take it as a guide. It’s been almost 4 years since I met someone who followed the steps before I even had them written down. So, I suppose I should rename this post to something slightly more accurate: Five Ways My Heart Was Won.
I’ve never pretended, nor will I ever pretend, that I am perfect. I am flawed. Beautifully, wonderfully and endlessly flawed. The first way to win my heart is to accept that. Not just tolerate my flaws, but embrace them. Know that my flaws are what make me who I am, at least as much as my strengths, maybe more so. And know, too, that I will accept and love you back: flaws, quirks, weaknesses, strengths.
Trust is the foundation in any relationship: business relationships, friendships, and even more so in romantic relationships. The number two method of winning my heart is simple and twofold: trust, and be trustworthy. I’m not saying that trust easy, but it is necessary. Trust is built over time, and can be damaged and rebuilt a thousand times, but must remain a constant. Without being able to trust your partner, you cannot build a life together. I’m not saying you can’t make mistakes, can’t break my trust occasionally. That’s to be expected, I will do it too. However, the acknowledgement of your own mistakes and proving your willingness to restore the trust you broke is crucial.
So, two priests walk into a bar and… I expect anyone who can win my heart to be able to make me laugh. I’m not asking for a stand-up comedian by any stretch, but we should have similar senses of humour and you should understand what I will find funny. If you’re not hitting every joke out of the park on our first date I’ll understand, but if we’ve been together a few months and you still only tell me jokes that make me roll my eyes, it’s probably not going to work.
Life isn’t all great times, so I’m not interested in a fair weather partner. The fourth way of winning my heart is something you need to be able to dedicate to me long before we’re making a vow of it: for better, or for worse. Sometimes I will have bad days. I will overreact, I will cry, I will get mad at you, I will project frustrations onto you. I will be sullen, insecure, withdrawn and miserable without explanation. If I could change this permanently I would do so, but I cannot. For this and more, I am sorry. However, difficult though I may be at times, I expect you to be there for me through it all, as I will be for you. And in exchange for your patience, you will have me at my best as well as my worst. I am usually upbeat, affectionate, caring, and if I may toot my own horn a little, a joy to spend time with! As long as bad days don’t send you running for the hills, you’ll reap the benefits of the (much more common) good days.
Lastly, and most importantly, I expect your love. My emotions have a tendency to vary to the extremes, as illustrated in my last point, and as such I love fiercely. I don’t believe there is a measurement for love, so I don’t think our love for each other has to be ‘equal’ but I do expect your love to be strong, and to be shown. You need to tell me you love me, and you need to show me you love me on a regular basis. Be affectionate, be generous, be giving, be playful, be romantic, be loving. Be mine.
It Saturday morning, and my weekend is already over! Alas. It was nice though! Thursday evening I got off work a couple hours early and we ordered some pizza, watched Howl’s Moving Castle and played Rogue Legacy. It was a nice date night in. And then Friday we both had the whole day off!
We had a really nice day. We were thinking of going to a movie but there was really nothing good playing so we decided to go for a walk instead. We went shopping downtown and bought some cool stuff! I got little heart earrings and an anchor bow from this little boutique I love, so cute. We went to a books, coins & collectibles shop and my boyfriend bought some trading cards, I wanted to buy a cool coin but the shopkeeper gave me a half-penny for free! I was excited. Then we went to the coffee shop for a mocha (for Dustin) and a London fog (for me) and an oat cake (to share) and we hid in there until the rain cleared up. Later that evening we also had a dinner date! It was a nice and busy day.
When we got home from dinner there was a bird trapped under the awning at our front door, he kept hitting the light like a moth it was sad. We tried to rescue him but he wouldn’t cooperate. I had a craving to watch Fellowship of the Ring but I only got halfway through and realized I should really go to sleep since it was after 1am and I started work at 8. I didn’t get to sleep until almost four though and accidentally slept through my alarm and I was 45 minutes late for work ugh. I hate being late for stuff! Anyway that was my (short) weekend!
Awkward face, trying to see my earrings!
My half penny!
The stuck bird, poor lil guy
Today was not particularly exciting. I spent most of the evening working on designing a cookbook I’m making for myself and watching friends. Yesterday I made up this delicious casserole recipe with chicken and mushroom soup and it was excellent. Saturday night I had been worried about going over to Dustin’s friends house but we ended up having a lot of fun! We played some board games and drank some beer and made some offensive jokes. Good times! I have this Friday off work (another one day weekend, ugh) and I have to go to the clinic because I hurt my back. But we also have a plan to order pizza so I’m still excited. My cat friend Jupiter is doing well and I have a new black and white buddy I haven’t named yet who I’ve met twice who is really sweet. I give them both treats most nights on my walk home from work. Oh, oh, I finally got wifi at work! That’s an exciting thing that happened today
Here’s the chicken-mushroom dish I made! I didn’t have a recipe but I’ve heard that mushroom soup is good on chicken so I just sorta winged it! I baked the chicken in the soup with some flavor add-ins (cayenne, garlic, mustard, pepper) steamed the veggies and cooked the rice and then put it all together! Very yum.
And a silly squinty photo of me after a few drinks Saturday night! Cute.
I’ve just gotten home from an elaborate breakfast run! Takes three different stores just to bring home brekky for me and the boy. It’s my one day off that I have this week and I wish I was going to have a bunch of time to relax but I have errands to run and chores to do. We’re hanging out with my boyfriends best friend and his new girlfriend tonight, should be interesting. I had a dreadfully busy week between work and home and planning a birthday surprise for my father! I won’t say what it is in case my mom is reading (hi, mom!) but it had one large element which I managed to acquire, a complicated element that I finished designing and some small elements I still need to get. It’s gonna be really cool, I hope. Last night on the walk home from work there were four grey kittens outside by this house a couple blocks from ours. I gave them some treats but I was worried about them so Dustin and I went back out at like 2am with more food to check on them but they were gone, HOPEFULLY indoors. We did see a couple other outdoor cats that we gave some treats too. I wish people cared more about their cats. You need to take care of your pets!
Jinx being a cutie
I go my hair cut super short! I didn’t like it at first but now that I’m used to it it’s kinda cute. It has been very rainy here lately it has rained nonstop for about a week. Last night I made s’more brownies! They were pretty tasty. I have several photos to attach. Shoppers drug mart didn’t give me the optimum points I was due yesterday so I sent them an email I hope they fix it. I have a sore back
This is the day I got my hair cut!